EMOTIONAL DETOX

Emotional Detox- What Is it?

Emotional detox is a programme of healing. In the work that I do, it is about assisting people to recognise and release limiting negative beliefs about themselves that are usually accompanied by painful emotions and fears. We bury and suppress the emotions and fears and use up a great deal of energy to do this.

The fundamental negative toxic belief underlying all others is always I am not good enough. Because this is too fearful to think about and the emotion it evokes is so painful to endure, we go out of our way to avoid thinking the thought and feeling the feeling .For instance if we feel we are not good enough because we believe or have been told (usually in childhood) that we are inadequate, lazy, ugly or stupid, then we will do our best to compensate. But however much we try harder, achieve more, diet, beautify, resort to plastic surgery and act selflessly, or become successful we can still feel inside that we are not good enough.

Anaesthetising the toxic belief and feelings.

We may try to numb the toxic belief and feelings with food, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, sugar, sex or workaholism and by isolating ourselves .We may also blame and punish others as a way of taking the focus off the pain of our perceived inadequacy. So fear, anger, resentment at ourselves or others as well as hurt and guilt can get suppressed by turning to substances.  But the problem does not go away.  This problem is lack of unconditional love, approval and acceptance for the core self.  People often know this deep down but simply do not know how to love themselves.

Loving who we truly are instead of who we are trying to become.

The ultimate purpose of Emotional Detox is to free people of the belief and emotions surrounding not being good enough and help them learn how to unconditionally love the true self, instead of measuring approval with regard to the person they are trying to be.  People's resistance to self love is due to confusions, judgments and self accusations about being arrogant, selfish or self centred which paradoxically are distortions that arise out of feeling not good enough. Therefore learning to love the self means overcoming the judgments that block the direct experience of love and comfort from within.

The results

Out of love, acceptance and approval of the unconditional self. actions, life choices goals, achievements and successes grow from wholeness, instead of fear of not being good enough. The result is an entirely different feeling or energy that is expansive and it is an energy that naturally attracts love from others. Invariably confidence to explore new directions or goals and greater creativity emerge. They come from our authenticity instead of an attempt to make up for any lack.

Individuals begin to be able to accept compliments without feeling unworthy or fraudulent. They feel more real.

How the toxic belief and feelings originated

This can happen at any age but it often starts in childhood when we are more vulnerable due to obvious dependencies.  We look to parents and parent figure love, approval and protection. We often don't get what we need and believe that is because we are not good enough or not beautiful or clever enough. Our life and relationships continue to confirm our toxic belief about ourselves until we stop choosing to believe it and trying to compensate for it.  The Emotional Detox Programme includes a process of inner parenting which involves discovering what the individual wants-in terms of nurturing, unconditional love, security and protection, I show the client how to find and give these qualities to him or herself. Then the neediness stops and relationships with others become healthier.

Healing - is finding the unconditional self

We heal by getting in touch with, confronting and letting go of the toxic belief that we are imperfect and the emotional pain it causes. With Emotional Detox the process of letting go starts to reveal our true and unchanging identity - our unconditional self and the love within. We learn to appreciate and accept and value who we are, just as we would a new born, a beautiful flower, or a sunset because each is perfect as it is. It does not have to do anything or achieve anything to be lovable and nor do we. Through self acceptance at such a fundamental level, life stops being distorted by the constant effort to make up for any lack. Activity and effort flow from wholeness and fears are dramatically reduced.

So within so without

As a result of living a life from unconditional self love, we attract and are attracted to healthier relationships and more favourable circumstances in our professional and personal lives. This is because wholeness attracts wholeness whereas fear especially hidden fear of our inadequacy attracts fearful abusive, controlling people and inharmonious situations time and time again.  When we value and approve of ourselves we expect to be treated well and stop accepting or putting up with mistreatment from others. We are empowered to confront or move away from unpleasantness or the antagonistic people simply stop treating us badly because our energy and dynamic has changed.

How I work

By observing the person speaking, by tuning into their energy and through visualisation and my ability to see inner blockages, I source the toxic belief behind the pain and emotions I work with Universal Principals and laws and energy to help clients make sense of and resolve the past, from the perspective of love instead of fear.

The emotional detox process

By being with a client I can see and feel their energy, blocks and resistances to self love. I guide them through "energetic clearing" using symbolism, inner parenting visualisation, breathing, colour and spiritual connectedness. 

Emotional release

During Emotional Detox, people release suppressed emotions like fear, hurt, anger, guilt, worthlessness, inadequacy in many different ways.  Breathing change, body temperature change and postural change are all indicators that something is clearing.  It doesn't always end in tears!  The result is a feeling of lightness and renewed energy.

Emotional detox is ideal for those experiencing emotional discomfort due to e.g. life change, stress, loss, the past, fear, and inability to move forward and unhappiness despite outward worldly success.

She sees referrals from doctors, psychiatrists and self referrals for Emotional Detox, Stress Management and Lifestyle Balance programmes, at her practice in Pimlico and runs half day programmes for individuals in a private suite at the Landmark - "London's Best Hotel" .

Louise Smart is contactable on 07973 780 852 and you can visit her web site at www.emotional-detox.com